Elderly Care: "Follow me please" along the gangway

It goes with the job, seeing people in residential care and nursing homes. The past few weeks walking through several care facilities - corridor-lounge-corridor - you pass a series of open doors, an invite to gaze that way. (People do ask to have their doors left open and visitors should not be able to walk past open doors if privacy and dignity are at risk?) Walking along - a smile, nod of the head, wave of the hand it's like a gangway.

Recently, though it was a case of 1, 2, 3 and counting: residents sat in their rooms; chair, wheel chair, special chair bound.

A gallery of still-life studies. So many heads bowed, cast as life and world-weary statues. So many aged variations of The Thinker.

The homes and their staff do the best they can, some employ people dedicated to 'activities'. Despite this, it's not easy for many new carers to appreciate the value in engaging people who are disoriented for TI:ME, PLACE and PERSON in chit-chat or a group activity when five minutes later they have forgotten all about it. People are referred to mental health services because they have a mental health 'problem' and yet in many cases their bags are packed and they are ready to take you on a journey: if you care to listen.

We seem to focus on the cognitive value of the things we do, but is this a variation of task orientation that delivers a concrete output (PROCESS vs PURPOSE again)? What about the emotional value of the things we do and the possible benefits, whether visible or intangible? ALL work and the effort it requires carries a price and despite the forgetting, the emotional engagement and safe social contact can still make a real positive difference to people. The price paid by residents in being engaged in conversation, can reduce any sense of alienation, loneliness and the aggression and agitation that can follow.

What do I mean 'safe' social contact? Many people in care are disinhibited; they say things to their fellows and staff that are very personal and upsetting. Cognitive decline is a fact of life, but even for people diagnosed with dementia, the damage done varies from person to person. For many they are profoundly impaired and yet their personality flickers through and with it sensitivity to things said by their peers. Remember those anxious moments in the play ground? Social mores are deeply ingrained in us. Maybe this is why for youngsters the current spate of e-bullying is having such a impact. Bodies may be battered and worn, but INTRA - interPERSONAL and SOCIAL exercise mediated by carers (and relatives!) can pay longer term dividends.

In between care needs that also demand quiet, rest and sleep and our need to be realistic and objective; personal and group engagement can I'm sure make a real difference. It depends on the resources + the right attitudes to make it happen. To see the person not the statue.

Even if only for a few moments
bringing statues back to life is real magic.
Walking the gangway is one thing,
but residential care should not be the gangplank
as it is so often portrayed for residents or staff.
Converse-2-conserve.

Rodin image original source: http://users.ox.ac.uk/~ball0888/oxfordopen/Rodin.htm